Every part of you that hides itself from the totality of life — gets projected onto someone or something. Since nothing can be excluded from the totality of life, meaning that everything is included, it has to express itself somehow and somewhere. Your willingness to examine, with excruciating honesty, what is assumed to be separate from the totality of life, crucifies all that is false in you.
Yes.....violating with our projections, our needs....an uncompromising, honest love.