TELLING THE NAKED TRUTH
The willingness to discover what is true in the midst of conflict, hurt, disappointment, or disconnection is the direct path in relationships.
There is no need to learn special techniques or communication skills, or to practice visualization or rituals. There is no magic or mystery in the direct path other than the wonder and mystery of love itself.
This is about simply telling the truth without cloaking, decorating, embellishing, blaming, judging, or defending.
It’s actually not about the other, but about what is true in you.
Telling the naked truth requires you to meet what is here in the unknownness of this moment. It’s not a pre-planned speech or testimony, but rather an innocent openness that leads to a radical honesty in which you stay present without wavering into past hurt or future expectation.
It’s also about being willing to listen to the truth without protecting yourself, rejecting the other, blaming, judging, or defending.
It requires you to stay tenderly yet unequivocally open in the midst of confusion, brokenness, or anger, and to renounce all need to cling to relationship or to discard relationship.
In this open space of self-exposure, the desire to control anyone or anything simply stops, and so does the search for something other than what is in the present moment.
Without a story to stick to and without a “me” burdened by agenda or self-protective strategy, everything that stands in the way of openness (every complaint, doubt, regret, and resentment) tenderly reveals itself and returns to source. In this pregnant moment of stillness, there is absolutely nothing you need to plan, consider, or do.
The next moment simply and irrevocably reveals itself in the ever-unfolding moment of what is true. Whether you stay in the relationship or leave the relationship, whether you cry or laugh with joy, feel agony or ecstasy, all unfolds according to life’s intelligence.
In the openness of stark naked truth, whether you like what you are experiencing or not, there is only the deepest acceptance.
(From Embodied Enlightenment)
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